Post #68 – Just a thought

August 2, 2017

“And how would you like your eggs?” she asked courteously.

“Cooked” was his quick reply.

She stared at him, baffled, for a moment, then said smartly, “Of course they’re going to be cooked. What stlye of cooking would you prefer?”

“Overeasy please,” he said smiling.

It had been a good day for him. He had just closed yet another account, and went to his favorite diner to celebrate.

“Anything else I can get you?” she asked quickly as she was putting away her note pad.

“No thanks,” he said. “That’ll be everything.”

He had been coming to this diner for several months, and he fancied this waitress.

Jessica was her name.

She reminded him of a childhood friend he had long since lost contact with.

He had begun searching the internet for her or her family’s presence. No such luck.

They had moved away many years ago. He too eventually moved away from his childhood home, to a strange place far away.

He reminisced for a moment before reaching for his tea, and taking a sip.



Post #67 – POF Signup

December 29, 2016

So I recently signed for Plenty of Fish .com at the request of one of my friends.

I took their self-needs test, and these are my results:

Congratulations on completing Plenty of Fish’s unique “Relationship Needs Assessment.” This assessment determines what you need in a relationship across nine key factors.

Your factors include:

Preferred Expressions of Affection
Relationship Readiness
Conflict Resolution
Attitudes About Love
Your report gives you valuable feedback on each of these factors in several special ways. Based on your unique answer patterns, you first receive a synopsis of what you need in a relationship on each factor. To help you address these issues in actual practice, your report also contains a customized set of questions for you to consider asking or exploring with potential dating partners to determine the degree to which a person may meet those unique needs. In other words, you have guidance for understanding and exploring what it takes for someone to be “relationship material” with you.
Finally, the assessment reveals any specific issues that you seemed especially to under-value or over-value. These are likes and dislikes that are often hidden from your awareness, but they can strongly affect your relationship decisions. Enjoy your report, contemplate the information and insights it provides and good luck in applying the results here at the Plenty of Fish community!

vhongo, Your Assessment is below


Interdependence refers to how much you need dependency or a “couple identity” with your partner.

You are moderately interdependent in a relationship. This means that you desire a good degree of physical and emotional connection with a partner. And you absolutely are drawn to someone whom you can respect and even emulate to some degree. In fact, it is quite common for a person in this score range to consider how your romantic partner would reflect on your family and friends. This all does not mean that you do not need personal space now and then; nearly everyone values being unique and different from others in some respects. However, people in this range draw strength, comfort and a strong sense of identity from their close relationships. Thus, when you feel close to someone this person becomes an extremely important part of who you are on the inside and outside. You probably prefer that you and your partner’s recreational activities be shared together since you like having your partner physically close and you desire showing off your “couplehood” in public. Bottom line: you need someone who likes frequent physical and emotional connection like you do, but who helps keeps dependency in check in the relationship so that you two do not lose your identities as individuals.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “interdependency” needs with potential partners:
“Do you think couples can ever get to the point when they spend too much time together? – and if so, how do you know when that point is?”
“How much time away from a lover do you think you need in a given week? – and what kinds of things do you like to do for yourself during your free time?”
“What really makes a date or any time with a partner truly special for you?”
Food for Thought! PlentyofFish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
My sense of pride comes from my relationships. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you put up rigid boundaries with romantic partners, that you value privacy and personal space at the expense of being insensitive to a partner, that you do not form deep attachments to loved ones or a romantic partner or that you are overly protective and secretive about the details of your relationships. On the positive side, it could mean that you value being unique and different from other people, that you can make distinctions between an individual and the people with whom they associate, that you are not the type of person to posture socially and “drop names.”


Intimacy refers to the how much you need emotional closeness with your partner.

You are clearly comfortable with giving and receiving emotional intimacy. You long for emotional closeness and security with a special person, and you tend to be open with a partner in return. That openness includes lessons learned from your past experiences and relationships, extending trust, believing your partner returns your feelings and devotion and being generally comfortable with surrendering yourself to a partner. In fact, you probably would feel uncomfortable if there were serious secrets between you and your partner. Likewise, you probably regard a partner as your best friend and your foremost confidant. There is likely no hesitation discussing current problems or concerns with that person. It also seems that you have realistic expectations for a committed relationship. However, you may find yourself wondering whether your partner’s feelings are equally as strong as yours. Still, people in this scoring range are willing to take the risks associated with being vulnerable on many levels. Bottom line: you need someone who desires and reciprocates intimacy as much as you do.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “intimacy” needs with potential partners:
“Have you tended to avoid arguments with past partners or is it more like you to talk about all types of the feelings and concerns you have?”
“Do you think couples should always be open and honest with each other, or are there things that it is okay to hold back?”
“Can you talk and share on an intimate level as well as you listen to a friend in need?”


Self-Efficacy refers to your self-image, stability of mood and level of motivation.

People at your scoring level feel assertive and expressive most of the time and strive to maintain a positive attitude. You likely find that having plans and structured goals help motivates and guides your personal and professional development. Many people in this scoring range are visionary in their ambitions, but they can be highly self critical. Indeed, you are likely to be acutely aware of your own strengths and weaknesses. Therefore, it probably helps for you to hear praise and recognition, as well as have measurable goals and benchmarks in order to feel competent in your decisions and actions and to achieve a strong sense of accomplishment. Bottom line: you need someone who is extremely supportive of your goals by showing patience and a positive outlook and who also frequently acknowledges and praises your small and large accomplishments.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “self-efficacy” needs with potential partners:
“Do people need to fish for compliments from you, or are you the kind of person who frequently gives spontaneous acknowledgements and praise to others?”
“What are the most important responsibilities in a friendship?”
“Do you think success in life is largely a matter of good organization or largely a matter of luck?”
Food for Thought! PlentyofFish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Over-value
I think highly of myself. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are immodest, that you are egotistical or that you are unconcerned with self improvement. On the positive side, it could mean that you do not question your self worth and personal competence, that you are not self critical or that you are an overachiever in some aspects.
Issues you seem to Under-value
There are many things about myself I would change if I could. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are unconcerned with self improvement, that you are closed to new experiences and learning opportunities or that you have an unrealistic view of your abilities. On the positive side, it could mean that you have realistic expectations on some issues, that you accurately perceive yourself as others do or that you are content with your self.

Relationship readiness

Relationship Readiness refers to how prepared you are emotionally, psychologically and pragmatically for a committed relationship.

In some ways, you may not be fully ready for a committed relationship. You seem to feel a fair degree of comfort and grounding in your life right now. In fact, most people in this range have a clear vision and a sense of purpose for their life. They also feel in control, but sometimes that sense of control can be fleeting or a false sense of security. For example, it is often the case that people in this scoring range need to address unresolved issues that can interfere with them having the life and relationship they want. These could be financial or legal issues or even physical, emotional or health issues. It may also be the case that you are seeking a relationship primarily to fill a void in your life or to gain a feeling of acceptance and belonging that was weakened or lost due to other relationships that ended or disappointed you. Bottom line: you need someone who will be patient and supportive as you figure out your needs rather than who will rush the relationship prematurely.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “relationship readiness” needs with potential partners:
“Responding candidly, what are your strengths and weaknesses as a friend?”
“What are the most important responsibilities you have to a romantic partner?”
“Do you feel offended or rejected when a partner asks for time, space or privacy to take care of some personal business?”


Communication refers to your approach to interpersonal interactions and level of emotional intelligence.

Effective communicators have strong emotional intelligence, and you have the necessary foundation for strong emotional intelligence. People in this scoring range enjoy the learning opportunities of most challenges and are not afraid of making or admitting to mistakes. It is brave to show this level of vulnerability to others. Therefore, it is not surprising that you are sensitive to and accepting of other people’s expressions of vulnerability. For example, you can likely sense when someone feels troubled before being told. However, your sensitivity has limits. Most in this scoring range are neither comfortable nor patient with all expressions of emotion. They also are not keenly aware of all of the types of nonverbal signs that people send out nor are they always cognizant of how their own behavior impacts others. It is likely that you seek for others to understand you, rather than you seek to understand others. Bottom line: you need someone who seeks to understand you, thereby accepting an equal share of responsibility in maintaining open and honest communication in the relationship.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “communication” needs with potential partners:
“Do you tend to ask your romantic partner questions when you suspect s/he is upset, or is it more comfortable for you simply to allow them space to work it out alone?”
“Do you prefer to talk through issues in the heat of the moment, or approach your partner after you have had time to cool off and think about how best to explain what is on your mind?”
“Which sounds like a more appealing way to spend some free time: going out to see friends with your partner or staying alone at home with your partner talking about each other?”
Food for Thought! PlentyofFish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Over-value
I freely admit to making mistakes. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are self critical or that you focus on negatives instead of positives. On the positive side, it could mean that you have a realistic view of yourself, that you are not self conscious, that you are not overly proud or that you have good self esteem.
Issues you seem to Under-value
I always pay attention to people’s body language when talking to them. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are not in tune with a person’s body language, that you tend to be self absorbed or that you lack empathy. On the positive side, it could mean that you do not jump to conclusions or that you do not like to focus on negatives but instead seek out positives.

Conflict resolution

Conflict Resolution refers to your stress management and problem solving skills.

Effective conflict resolution has nine general elements: View Conflict as Positive; Address Conflict in the Proper Atmosphere; Clarify Perceptions; Note Needs, not wants; Draw on the Power of a Positive Partnership; Focus on the Future, then learn from the past; Identify Options for Mutual Gain; Develop ‘Doables’ or stepping stones to action; and Make Mutually-Beneficial Agreements. Your score indicates that you are strongest in the areas of Viewing Conflict as Positive (as learning opportunities); Clarifying Perceptions; Noting Needs; Drawing on Power of a Positive Partnership; and Developing Doables or stepping stones for actions. This all suggests that you are very action-oriented when addressing problems. Rather than avoid conflict, you seem to evaluate the possible solutions and then actively engage your partner to work on a positive outcome. Your definition of positive outcomes, however, may not always agree with your partner’s definition. For example, in eagerness to find what appears to be a complete and genuine resolution of a conflict rather than settling for a temporary agreement, you may focus on meeting your needs while unwittingly downplaying or minimizing whether your partner’s needs have been met as well. Furthermore, people in this scoring range do not consistently consider the Proper Atmosphere when addressing relationship problems. That is, you may neither consistently arrange for a mutually acceptable time and setting nor choose your opening statement carefully to establish positive yet realistic expectations. Bottom line: you need someone who is calm, cool and collected and who is willing to address issues spontaneously and through intense, action-oriented debates and discussions.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “conflict resolution” needs with potential partners:
“Would you describe yourself as a rapid thinker? Explain”
“When you become frustrated at not being able to figure out the solution to a problem, does that make you work even harder to solve it? Explain”
“On a typical day, would you describe yourself as a person who likes frequent change? Explain”
Food for Thought! PlentyofFish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Over-value
When confused about a problem, I typically clarify vague ideas or feelings by thinking of them in concrete terms. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you over analyze information, that you are not a “big picture” thinker or that you do not evaluate information on emotional and intellectual levels. On the positive side, it could mean that you have good attention to detail, that you can simplify issues or that you are insightful.
Issues you seem to Under-value
When I have a problem, I think of as many possible ways to address it until I can not come up with any more ideas. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you rush to judgment, that you are impatient or that you are not creative. On the positive side, it could mean that you do not over think or over analyze a situation or that you are action-oriented.


Sexuality refers to your needs (frequency, boundaries, expressions) related to physical intimacy.

Scientific models of love and attachment always include physical chemistry and sexuality. It is a crucial topic for any couple to address, because it involves issues of control and vulnerability. People at your scoring level have a firm sense of their sexual orientation, preferred sexual activities and comfort level. You like sex that is romantic, adventurous and fun, but for you sex is not a casual event. Sex has great importance in your relationship, and it is reserved for someone you love. You may think your sexual preferences would be viewed as conservative by others, but you are no prude. You are confident in your own sexual ability and are open to try various activities. In fact, you probably like to experiment actively. A defining characteristic of people in this scoring range is their willingness to be vulnerable and relinquish control in the bedroom to their partners. In other words, you are not sexually selfish – you like to focus on pleasing your partner and submitting to his/her desires. Bottom line: you need someone who regards sex as a meaningful bond between people in love and who appreciates being the center of attention in the bedroom.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “sexual” needs with potential partners:
“Would you eagerly talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies?”
“Is it like you to direct your partner what to do in bed so s/he knows best how to please you?”
“In your mind, is there any difference between ‘having sex’ and ‘making love’?”
Food for Thought! PlentyofFish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
One of my goals is to be a “perfect” sexual partner. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are not sensitive to your partner’s needs and desires or that you have low motivation and self esteem. On the positive side, it could mean that you are not self absorbed or a perfectionist, that you have good self acceptance and self esteem or that you have a positive attitude on sensitive issues.

Attitudes toward love

Attitudes Toward Love refers to your level of needs for romantic love and friendship love.

There are two main types of love – Romantic Love and Companionate Love. Romantic Love is passionate, emotional and intense, whereas Companionate Love is a deep, affectionate attachment. People feel these two types of loves to different degrees in a relationship, and the levels of each can fluctuate over time. You scored as someone who may be best described as “a “hopeless romantic with a touch of realist.” This means that you do value the safety, security and comfort of Companionate Love, but for you a relationship must have a strong dose of Romantic Love. In this sense, you desire someone who is on the same wavelength as you –sharing similar attitudes, moods and impulses. It is common for people in this range to view their partner as a soul mate – a person who you were destined to meet and fall in love with. This attitude of “love conquers all” is optimistic and sweet, but it is not productive to remain in a “love daze” and idealize your partner constantly. Seeing a partner and relationship while only wearing rose-colored glasses can prevent you from identifying and addressing problem areas in the relationship. Bottom line: you need someone who satisfies the hopeless romantic in you but who will insist that you take time to get to know each other well before the taking the relationship to next levels.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “love attitude” needs with potential partners:
“In choosing a partner, do you believe it is best to love someone with a similar background? Explain”
“If you truly love another person, is that enough to marry or otherwise have a committed relationship with that person?”
“How do you feel about the notion that ‘common interests are really unimportant; as long two people are truly in love, they will adjust’?”

Preferred Expressions of Affection

Preferred Expressions of Affection refers to your likes and dislikes for different ways a partner can express love and devotion.

There are many ways in which people show affection to their loved ones: physical touch, doing favors, spending time together, giving gifts or communicating love through words. Statistically, you gave higher weighted ratings to Actions. Bottom line: You need someone who can express affection through simple or grand acts of kindness – such as helping you out around the house, running errands for you or doing favors without being asked.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “affection” needs with potential partners:
“In what ways – if any – do you like for a partner to depend on you?”
“Have you offered to throw a party for someone? – if so, why did you take on that responsibility?”
“What are some things you have done for other people that they would say were the most thoughtful?”
Out of the various modes of expressing affection, Verbal Communication received lower weighted ratings from you. Bottom line: This does not mean that you neither like nor need Verbal Communication. Rather, it suggests that you need someone who can show affection in ways other than just verbal expressions such as spontaneous compliments, frequent “I love you’s,” occasional notes for you to find and recognition of your achievements.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “affection” needs with potential partners:
“Is it important for you to hear ‘I love you’ every time you talk to your significant other?”
“Do people typically have to fish for compliments from you?”
“Do you like to exchange emails with your partner during the day… or talk for long periods on the phone when apart?”
I like to think this about sums me up.
Relationship Chemistry Test Results


As someone with high self-confidence, you feel quite comfortable interacting with other people. Indeed, you find the company of others very stimulating and enjoy meeting new people. Your relaxed demeanor in groups makes people around you comfortable too. Perhaps because you feel comfortable talking about yourself, others tend to enjoy being around you and perceive you as socially competent.

The confidence that helps you feel comfortable talking to people also spills into your own personal beliefs about yourself. Although you have several strengths, it’s likely that you also acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. But unlike some people, you take full responsibility for your actions—you rarely regret things you’ve done in the past and are not embarrassed easily.

Perhaps the defining feature that sets you apart from most people is the exceptionally high standards that you set for yourself. Your competence in social gatherings as well as at work should provide ample evidence for this. With these characteristics, it’s very likely that people come to you for advice and generally think of you as someone with leader-like qualities.

Family Orientation

As someone who is oriented to familial matters, you value the company of family-members and domestic life. If you have children already, you enjoy spending time with them very much and work hard to be a good parent. If you don’t have children, you very much desire having children in the future. And your preference for cooking and entertaining guests at home will likely ease the transition into parenthood.

You take pride in maintaining and cultivating a healthy family and work hard to achieve this. This natural tendency is easily illustrated by your preference for doing things around the house as opposed to going out to clubs and restaurants.

What really sets you apart from people that are low in family orientation is that you know how to manage your frustrations and work well on your own. This means that you are well-equipped to manage a family without letting all the work that is involved wear you down. However, as someone with strong family values, all the work that is involved in maintaining a tidy home and well-stocked kitchen might occasionally make it difficult for you to finish everything that you need to do.


The self-control personality dimension captures the way in which a person regulates and directs him or herself. Being low in self-control can be both good and bad. Occasionally people may be compelled to follow their intuitions and give in to their temptations, and your degree of self-control makes this likely to happen more often than not. This can be good in circumstances where being relaxed and open are important. However, in situations where it is necessary to be focused and careful, you might find that you do or say things that may be inappropriate.

As someone who exerts little control over your actions, you may find that you commit social blunders that might offend other people and get yourself in trouble. For example, if you’re given responsibility to work on a project that requires close attention to detail, you may be likely to overlook important details because you have difficulty staying focused. Consequently, you might feel more comfortable delegating such tasks to other people who are more detail oriented. Being able to recognize such characteristics in yourself and having more detail-oriented people do such tasks could be an effective way to manage your own stress level.

Low self-control may diminish your effectiveness at work. Acting too relaxed can make it difficult for you to focus on projects that require organized sequences of steps or stages. Thus, your ability to accomplish may be inconsistent. Indeed, it’s possible that you might be criticized periodically for being unreliable or unable to “stay within the lines.” Nonetheless, you may still experience many short-lived pleasures and never be thought of as boring.


As someone moderate in openness, you have an appreciation for art and nature, but are also down to earth and realistic. On the one hand, it’s likely that you are fond of music and art, and on the other hand, enjoy and appreciate things that have a clear point and some sort of practical utility. Additionally, you have a certain degree of awareness of your own emotions; that is, you tend to notice when you’re feeling a particular way and take those feelings into account when making decisions.
You tend to think in both abstract ways—in terms of metaphors—and logically. Therefore, in your work and free time, you enjoy activities that get your “creative juices” flowing, but are also able to keep your mind on the primary objective of the task at hand.

Your tendency to be both open-minded, yet realistic is generally quite advantageous. For instance, when there are no clear rules about how to approach a particular problem, your openness makes it easy for you to identify new ways to solve problems that might not be very obvious to people that are not as open as you are. However, because you are also realistic-minded, you are able follow-rules quite easily. This combination makes it easy for you to excel in your work because you are able to “think outside the box” while still being able to keep your eyes on “the big picture.”


Easygoingness refers to one’s ability to relax. Based on your score, you appear to “take things as they come” and enjoy having a good time. However, being high in easygoingness also has the potential to produce stress in a number of ways. For example, you may find it difficult to complete tasks thoroughly and efficiently. In this way, being high in easygoingness cannot only make your life difficult, but also the lives of the people around you. Another potential problem with being too high in easygoingness is that it can provide you with gratification in the short-term, but in the long-term provide undesirable consequences.

High easygoingness, even when not seriously destructive, may also diminish your effectiveness at work, for example. You may find it aversive and difficult to put in all the effort that may sometimes be needed to effectively accomplish certain tasks. For this reason, your colleagues might view you as forgetful and unfocused.

How does your personality affect your love life?

With your strong degree of self-confidence, it’s no surprise that you get along well with most people. Indeed, it’s self-confidence that allows people to feel comfortable interacting with others without feeling insecure and vulnerable. For this reason, you shouldn’t have much difficulty in romance, at least not initially. Your social skills will likely help relieve any anxiety your romantic partners might have on those first few dates. However, over time, the high standards that you have for yourself could potentially frustrate your partner.

Given how much you value family life, you probably get along best with people who share your values and beliefs. In fact, it’s likely that you maintain close connections with members of your immediate and distant family. For this reason, you would probably be most satisfied in a romantic relationship with someone who also values domestic life. Being in a relationship with someone who enjoys going out to parties and staying-up late at night might be fun, at least initially; yet it’s likely that you will find this tiring over time. Thus, it might be easier and more satisfying for you to develop a long-lasting relationship with a person who also enjoys spending time at home and desires starting a family.

As someone who is more relaxed than most people, you’re probably attracted to most people. However, your free-spirited nature might make being in a relationship with a person that is more rigid than you difficult because you might perceive the person as being too uptight and controlling. For this reason, you may ultimately be most satisfied in a relationship with someone that is shares your level of self-control.

Your openness probably makes it easy for you to respect and appreciate people that are different from you. However, you may become frustrated with people that are too unconventional or traditional. Therefore, you may be happiest in serious relationships with people that share both your open-mindedness and realistic nature.

Post #66 – Update

October 21, 2016

So I guess it’s been about 2 years since I last posted something. So here Goes:


Jan 2014 I was still working at Galaxy Cinemas – a division of Cineplex. I moved in with my brother – for cheaper rent. I was promoted to Assistant Manager in November.


2015 – Still @ Gxy, Still single. Sis Moved back to town around Jan, moved in with me and Bro around March. April Bro moves away – sis remains on couch. New roommate in Aug – asked sister to leave. Started “dating” roommate in Sept. By Oct we were ‘JUST roommates’…


2016 – Jan – Aug: Still at Gxy, still single.

Sep – Move to CGY, working as a clerk in a bakery. still single. Not at GXY.


Now you’re up to speed. XD


Now to try some Morse Code:

. . . .  . .    – –  – . – –    – .  . –  – –  .    ..  …    . . . –  ..  – . – .  –  – – –  . – .

In Hexadecimal:

84 96  D6 A7  E6 16 D6 56  96 37  65 96 36 47 F6 27

And Binary:

1000 0100  1001 0100  1101 0100 1010 0111  1110 0110 0001 0110 1101 0110 0101 0110  1001 0110 0011 0111 0110 0101 1001 0110 0011 0110 0100 0111 1111 0110 0010 0111

As long as I didn’t make any mistakes…


in my personal gibberish – that some of you have deciphered…

ihubay ymubay ubamubenubay subiubay ubictuborvubay.


that was intense, trying to write all that.


and now, one of these:

100 questions/facts about me

1) Name: Victor
2) Name Backwards: Rotciv
3) Were you named after anyone?: More off of a list
4) Does your name mean anything?: Everything to me. It also means winner.
5) Nick Name(s): V(ee), vongo (which is NOT correct!), Vic
6) Screen Name(s): V.Hongo (VHongo)
7) Date of Birth: Sometime in the past century.
8) Place of Birth: Oliver, BC
10) Current Location: Cyberspace, under my bed, in my new man-cave. (Cgy, AB)
11) Astrological sign: Fish (Pisces)
12) Religion: Only on Tuesdays.
13) Height: 4’18”
14) Weight: more than I’d like, but less than my hate-myself limit.
15) Shoe Size: 8 – 9
16) Hair color: Dark Brown
17) Eye color: Blue
18) What you look like: a Centaur
19) Innie or Outie: Outtie – my mind
20) Righty, Lefty, ambidextrous: somethings ambidexterous, mostly lefty. depends on the task really. I’m not consistent in all things..
21) Gay, Straight, Bi, or Other: Hetero
22) Best Friend(s): I’ve had many (Dimitri Z, Josh C, Bubbles, Sean W, Carmen, Jess L, TT/TKD, Jason L, Jesse B, Damian P, Mike C, Jovine M, David D, Carissa H, Gill F, Teah P, my phone, and myself.)
23) Best friend you trust the most: Jovine
24) Best friends {same gender}: Jason L, Mike C
25) Best friends of the opposite gender: Jovine M, Jess L
26) Best Bud(s): Jason, Damian, Dave
27) Boyfriend / Girlfriend: N/A
28) Crush: Pineapple or Cream Soda
29) Parent(s): Divorced
30) Worst Enemy: Life
31) Favorite on-line Guy(s): DogVader and PP5
32) Favorite on-line Girl(s): Jovine
33) Funniest friend: Nate Dogg – He thinks he’s funny, but in reality, everyone laughs AT him
34) Craziest friend: Nate Dogg. he’s such a wierdo
35) Advice Friend: Jovine
36) Loudest Friend: Ed-wierdo
37) Person you cry with: Brittney S
Do You Have…

38) Any sisters: IV
39) Any brothers: I
40) Any pets: N/A
41) A Disease: Hunger
42) A Pager: (How old is this thing…?)
43) A Personal landline: (How old is this thing…?)
44) A Cell phone: Yes
45) A Lava lamp: Not hooked up, dead bulb, destined for the dumpster – if it isnt there already…
46) A Pool or hot tub: ANY bathtub can be hot.
47) A Car: 2013 Toyota Yaris. 8500 KMS.

Describe Your…

48) Personality:  TYPE IS: MEDIATOR (INFP-T)  74% Introverted, 59% Intuitive (vs Observant), 56% feeling (44% thinking), 79% Prospecting (21% Judging), 71% Turbulent Identity, 29% Assertive.

Mediator personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, Mediators have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the Mediator personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

Being a part of the Diplomat Role group, Mediators are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – Mediators are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the Mediator personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable Mediators to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. Fantasy worlds in particular fascinate Mediators, more than any other personality type. The strength of their visionary communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous Mediators are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to Mediators, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

Mediators have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

Mediators’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to Mediators’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, Mediators will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for Mediators’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, Mediators can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. Mediators often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, Mediators may start to lose touch, withdrawing into “hermit mode”, and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, Mediator’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.


  • Idealistic – Mediators’ friends and loved ones will come to admire and depend on them for their optimism. Their unshaken belief that all people are inherently good, perhaps simply misunderstood, lends itself to an incredibly resilient attitude in the face of hardship.
  • Seek and Value Harmony – People with the Mediator personality type have no interest in having power over others, and don’t much care for domineering attitudes at all. They prefer a more democratic approach, and work hard to ensure that every voice and perspective is heard.
  • Open-Minded and Flexible – A live-and-let-live attitude comes naturally to Mediators, and they dislike being constrained by rules. Mediators give the benefit of the doubt too, and so long as their principles and ideas are not being challenged, they’ll support others’ right to do what they think is right.
  • Very Creative – Mediators combine their visionary nature with their open-mindedness to allow them to see things from unconventional perspectives. Being able to connect many far-flung dots into a single theme, it’s no wonder that many Mediators are celebrated poets and authors.
  • Passionate and Energetic – When something captures Mediators’ imagination and speaks to their beliefs, they go all in, dedicating their time, energy, thoughts and emotions to the project. Their shyness keeps them from the podium, but they are the first to lend a helping hand where it’s needed.
  • Dedicated and Hard-Working – While others focusing on the challenges of the moment may give up when the going gets tough, Mediators (especially Assertive ones) have the benefit of their far-reaching vision to help them through. Knowing that what they are doing is meaningful gives people with this personality type a sense of purpose and even courage when it comes to accomplishing something they believe in.


  • Too Idealistic – Mediators often take their idealism too far, setting themselves up for disappointment as, again and again, evil things happen in the world. This is true on a personal level too, as Mediators may not just idealize their partners, but idolize them, forgetting that no one is perfect.
  • Too Altruistic – Mediators sometimes see themselves as selfish, but only because they want to give so much more than they are able to. This becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, as they try to push themselves to commit to a chosen cause or person, forgetting to take care of the needs of others in their lives, and especially themselves.
  • Impractical – When something captures Mediators’ imagination, they can neglect practical matters like day-to-day maintenance and simple pleasures. Sometimes people with the Mediator personality type will take this asceticism so far as to neglect eating and drinking as they pursue their passion or cause.
  • Dislike Dealing With Data – Mediators are often so focused on the big picture that they forget the forest is made of individual trees. Mediators are in tune with emotions and morality, and when the facts and data contradict their ideals, it can be a real challenge for them.
  • Take Things Personally – Mediators often take challenges and criticisms personally, rather than as inspiration to reassess their positions. Avoiding conflict as much as possible, Mediators will put a great deal of time and energy into trying to align their principles and the criticisms into a middle ground that satisfies everybody.
  • Difficult to Get to Know – Mediators are private, reserved and self-conscious. This makes them notoriously difficult to really get to know, and their need for these qualities contributes to the guilt they often feel for not giving more of themselves to those they care about.


Mediators are dreamy idealists, and in the pursuit of the perfect relationship, this quality shows strongest. Never short on imagination, Mediators dream of the perfect relationship, forming an image of this pedestalled ideal that is their soul mate, playing and replaying scenarios in their heads of how things will be. This is a role that no person can hope to fill, and people with the Mediator personality type need to recognize that nobody’s perfect, and that relationships don’t just magically fall into place – they take compromise, understanding and effort.

Love All, Trust a Few, Do Wrong to None

Fortunately these are qualities that Mediators are known for, and while it can be a challenge to separate long-fostered fantasy from reality, Mediators’ tendency to focus their attention on just a few people in their lives means that they will approach new relationships wholeheartedly, with a sense of inherent value, dedication and trust.

Mediators share a sincere belief in the idea of relationships – that two people can come together and make each other better and happier than they were alone, and they will take great efforts to show support and affection in order to make this ideal a reality.

But Mediators aren’t necessarily in a rush to commit – they are, after all, Prospecting (P) types, and are almost always looking to either establish a new relationship or improve an existing one – they need to be sure they’ve found someone compatible. In dating, Mediators will often start with a flurry of comparisons, exploring all the ways the current flame matches with the ideal they’ve imagined. This progression can be a challenge for a new partner, as not everyone is able to keep up with Mediators’ rich imagination and moral standards – if incompatibilities and conflict over this initial rush mount, the relationship can end quickly, with Mediators likely sighing that “it wasn’t meant to be.”

As a relationship takes hold, people with the Mediator personality type will show themselves to be passionate, hopeless romantics, while still respecting their partners’ independence. Mediators take the time to understand those they care about, while at the same time helping them to learn, grow and change. While Mediators are well-meaning, not everyone appreciates what can come across as constantly being told that they need to improve – or, put another way, that they’re not good enough. Mediators would be aghast to find that their intents were interpreted this way, but it’s a real risk, and if their partner is as averse to conflict as Mediators themselves, it can boil under the surface for some time before surfacing, too late to fix.

Better Three Hours Too Soon Than a Minute Too Late

This aversion to conflict, while contributing greatly to stability in the relationship when done right, is probably the most urgent quality for Mediators to work on. Between their sensitivity and imagination, Mediators are prone to internalizing even objective statements and facts, reading into them themes and exaggerated consequences, sometimes responding as though these comments are metaphors designed to threaten the very foundations of their principles. Naturally this is almost certainly an overreaction, and Mediators should practice what they preach, and focus on improving their ability to respond to criticism with calm objectivity, rather than irrational accusations and weaponized guilt.

But that’s at their uncommon worst – at their best, Mediators do everything they can to be the ideal partner, staying true to themselves and encouraging their partners to do the same. Mediators take their time in becoming physically intimate so that they can get to know their partners, using their creativity to understand their wants and needs, and adapt to them. People with this personality type are generous in their affection, with a clear preference for putting the pleasure of their partners first – it is in knowing that their partners are satisfied that Mediators truly feel the most pleasure.


The true friends of people with the Mediator personality type tend to be few and far between, but those that make the cut are often friends for life. The challenge is the many dualities that this type harbors when it comes to being sociable – Mediators crave the depth of mutual human understanding, but tire easily in social situations; they are excellent at reading into others’ feelings and motivations, but are often unwilling to provide others the same insight into themselves – it’s as though Mediators like the idea of human contact, but not the reality of social contact.

How Poor Are They That Have Not Patience

In a lot of ways, this limits the potential pool of friends to other types in the Diplomat Role group, who are able to pick up on the subtle clues left by their Mediator friends, and who are more likely than not to enjoy something of a human enigma. A friendship with a Turbulent Executive (ESTJ-T) on the other hand, governed by social conventions and community participation as they are, would almost be a non-sequitur – though Mediators may find the idea of being paired with their opposite fascinating enough to outweigh the practical challenges to such a friendship.

To top it all off, ideas like networking and “the friend of my friend is my friend” hold little weight with Mediators. Friendships are earned on their own merit, by dint of the intuitive respect Mediators have for those with similar principles and values, rather than more practical alignments like those of coworkers. Mediators’ tendency to protect their sensitive inner cores and values from criticism, especially if they are on the more turbulent side of the spectrum, means that acquaintances will likely get nowhere near them without sustained and tactful effort.

But, if Mediators’ shields are properly navigated and they decide to open up and trust another person, a strong, stable friendship will ensue, marked by passionate support and idealism, subtle poetic wit, and a level of emotional insight that is hard to match. Mediators’ friends will be rewarded with calm, sensitivity and depth, and an ever-present desire to help, learn, and grow. But even the most confident and assertive Mediators will only be able to keep up this relaxed and present exterior for so long.

Even as friendships grow stronger and deeper, and friends are lulled into a sense of mutual understanding, Mediators’ enigmatic qualities will never truly vanish.

Mediators will always need to disappear for a while, removing themselves from others so they can re-center on their own minds and feelings. Often enough people with the Mediator personality type will emerge from this time alone having come to some momentous decision that even their closest friends didn’t know was weighing on them, evading even the option of receiving the sort of support and advice they so readily give. Such is Mediators’ way, for better or for worse.


People who share the Mediator personality type share a tendency to not only strive to learn and grow as principled, moral individuals, but to bring likeminded people on that journey with them. In their own subtle, often shy way, Mediators want to lead others forward, as kindred spirits – they will find no greater opportunity for this than in parenthood.

From the start, Mediator parents are warm, loving and supportive, and take immeasurable joy in the wide-eyed wonder of their children as they explore, learn, and grow. People with the Mediator personality type will give their children the freedom they need to do this, keeping an open mind and letting their children gain their own sense of understanding. At the same time, Mediator parents will try to provide a backdrop to this freedom and experience, establishing a set of morals and values that guide that liberty with a sense of personal responsibility.

Mediators never stop encouraging their children to learn and grow, and they consider it their duty to inspire and motivate them, both by using their sensitivity and intuition to speak in their children’s language and by leading the way themselves.

However, this sense of responsibility has a harder side – if their children fall foul of their Mediator parents’ values, it will not be taken lightly. People with the Mediator personality type take their responsibilities in parenthood seriously, and in this measure above all others.

In some ways, Mediators’ tendency to hide their inner selves from view can be an advantage in parenting, as they are able to portray themselves as good role models on the outside, shielding their loved ones not just from their own occasional anger and depression, but from the broader evils in the world as well. This helps Mediators to demonstrate outwardly the moral lessons they want their children to adopt, and at the same time to establish a sense of harmony in the household.

Modest Doubt Is Called the Beacon of the Wise

The biggest challenge for Mediator parents, especially more Turbulent types who often have even more trouble with self-doubt than most, is to establish more practical and day-to-day structures and rules. Mediators may be able to convey the abstract value of honesty with remarkable skill, but it’s not always easy to equate that idea with the practical reality of their children being home from the movies when they said they were going to be, and it’s especially challenging when these misunderstandings result in conflict. In these situations, Mediator personalities do best with a partner who is able to play a stronger hand in more administrative tasks than they can, so they can focus on the underlying spirit of those rules.


It is perhaps more challenging for Mediators to find a satisfying career than any other type. Though intelligent, the regimented learning style of most schools makes long years earning an advanced degree a formidable undertaking for people with the Mediator personality type – at the same time, that’s often what’s needed to advance in a field that rings true for them. Mediators often wish that they could just be, doing what they love without the stress and rigor of professional life.

Oftentimes, as with so many things, the answer lies somewhere in the middle, in a line of work that begins with passion and dedication, but which comes to require training so that the academia feels intimately linked to that passion. Too many Mediators drift in frustration, ultimately succumbing to the necessities of day-to-day life in a job that wasn’t meant for them. But it turns out that, despite such exacting demands, modern economics places a premium on the very keys to Mediators’ challenges: their creativity, independence, and need for meaningful relationships with individuals who need their help.

There’s Place and Means for Everyone

First and foremost is seemingly every Mediators’ dream growing up – to become an author. While a novel is a classic choice, it is rarely an accessible one, and there are many viable options for freedom-loving Mediators. The internet brings to the world the opportunities of blogging and freelance work – as organizations expand their reach beyond their native tongues, they will come to depend on Mediator personality types, with their gift for language and written expression, to take their rougher translations and stale pitches and inject them with a sense of beauty and poetry. Smaller organizations will need more than ever to express with elegance the value they bring to local communities.

Most any cause, idea, or field can benefit from the artful and natural expression that Mediators bring to the table, and Mediators have their pick of the world in choosing who they work with.

The real beauty here is that it takes a core interest that people with the Mediator personality type share, while helping a cause they believe in, independently, through creative expression and personal growth, and makes it applicable to any interest there is. There will always be a need, and now more than ever, to win people’s hearts and minds with the written word.

Some Mediators will prefer a still more personal touch, being able to work face-to-face with clients, seeing that their personal effort really impacts another’s quality of life. Service careers such as massage therapy, physical rehabilitation, counselling, social work, psychology and even academic roles and retraining can be exceptionally rewarding for Mediators, who take pride in the progress and growth they help to foster. People with the Mediator personality type have a tendency to put others’ interests ahead of their own, a mixed blessing by itself, but when a patient takes their first unaided step in the long road to recovery after an accident, nothing will feel more rewarding than that selflessness.

If to Do Were as Easy as to Know What Were Good to Do…

Where Mediators will not thrive is in a high-stress, team-heavy, busy environment that burdens them with bureaucracy and tedium. Mediators need to be able to work with creativity and consideration – high-pressure salespeople they are not. It can be a challenge to avoid these roles, as they are the basis for so much starting work, and it’s often a risk to break away into something less dependable, but more rewarding. To find a career that resonates with Mediators’ values though, that’s more than just a job, sometimes it’s just what needs to be done.


In the workplace, Mediators face the challenge of taking their work and their profession personally. To Mediators, if it isn’t worth doing, it isn’t really worth doing, and this sense of moral purpose in their work colors everything from how they respond to authority to how they express it. Though the way the Mediator personality type shows through depends on the position, there are a few basic truths about what Mediators seek in the workplace: they value harmony, need an emotional and moral connection to their work, and loathe bureaucratic tedium.

Mediator Subordinates

As subordinates, Mediators prefer latitude, and would much rather immerse themselves in a project, alone or with a close team, than simply be told what task to do and move on. People with the Mediator personality type aren’t looking for easy, forgettable work that pays the bills, they’re looking for meaningful work that they actually want to think about, and it helps for their managers to frame responsibilities in terms of emotional merit rather than cold rationalization or business for its own sake. Mediators would rather know that their work will help to deliver a service they believe in than to know that the bottom line has been boosted by 3%.

If these standards are met, managers will find an extremely dedicated and considerate employee in Mediators. As idealistic opportunity-seekers Mediators may not always work well in technical applications, where the facts and logic really matter and critique is often necessary, but they work beautifully in more human and creative endeavors. While some types, especially those in the Analyst Role group, respond favorably to negative feedback, taking criticism as an opportunity to not make the same mistake twice, people with the Mediator personality type would much rather hear what they did right and focus on what to do, rather than what not to.

Mediator Colleagues

Mediators feel most comfortable among colleagues – they aren’t interested in controlling others, and have a similar distaste for being controlled. Among their colleagues, Mediators will feel freer to share their ideas, and while they may maintain some psychological distance, they will make every effort to be pleasant, friendly and supportive – so long as their coworkers reciprocate. Mediators don’t like conflict or picking sides, and will do everything they can to maintain harmony and cooperation.

Most of this comes down to good communication, which Mediators prefer to conduct in person, for that personal touch, or in writing, where they can compose and perfect their statements. People with the Mediator personality type avoid using phones if they can, having the worst of both worlds, being both detached and uncomposed. Mediators also like to feel like their conversations are meaningful, and while they enjoy exploring philosophy more than most, their patience for arbitrary hypothetical brainstorming or dense technical discussions is limited.

Mediator Managers

As managers, Mediators are among the least likely to seem like managers – their egalitarian attitudes lend respect to every subordinate, preferring communication as human beings than as a boss/employee opposition. People with the Mediator personality type are flexible, open-minded and give their subordinates the tools they need, be they responsible delegation or an intuitive and receptive sounding board, to get the job done. Keeping their eyes on the horizon, Mediators set goals that achieve a desirable end, and help the people working under them to make that happen.

There is a downside to this style, as sometimes the boss just needs to be the boss. Mediators know how they feel about criticism, and are reluctant to subject others to that same experience, whether it’s needed or even welcome. Further complicating this role, when Mediators are under stress, as when someone really does warrant criticism, they can become extremely emotional – they may not show it, but it can affect their judgment, or even cause them to withdraw inwards, in ways that can really hold back their team.


Few personality types are as poetic and kind-hearted as Mediators. Their altruism and vivid imagination allow Mediators to overcome many challenging obstacles, more often than not brightening the lives of those around them. Mediators’ creativity is invaluable in many areas, including their own personal growth.

Yet Mediators can be easily tripped up in areas where idealism and altruism are more of a liability than an asset. Whether it is finding (or keeping) a partner, making friends, reaching dazzling heights on the career ladder or planning for the future, Mediators need to put in a conscious effort to develop their weaker traits and additional skills.

What you have read so far is just an introduction into the complex concept that is the Mediator personality type. You may have muttered to yourself, “wow, this is so accurate it’s a little creepy” or “finally, someone understands me!” You may have even asked “how do they know more about me than the people I’m closest to?”

This is not a trick. You felt understood because you were. We’ve studied how Mediators think and what they need to reach their full potential. And no, we did not spy on you – many of the challenges you’ve faced and will face in the future have been overcome by other Mediators. You simply need to learn how they succeeded.

But in order to do that, you need to have a plan, a personal roadmap. The best car in the world will not take you to the right place if you do not know where you want to go. We have told you how Mediators tend to behave in certain circumstances and what their key strengths and weaknesses are. Now we need to go much deeper into your personality type and answer “why?”, “how?” and “what if?”

This knowledge is only the beginning of a lifelong journey. Are you ready to learn why Mediators act in the way they do? What motivates and inspires you? What you are afraid of and what you secretly dream about? How you can unlock your true, exceptional potential?

Our premium profiles provide a roadmap towards a happier, more successful, and more versatile YOU! They are not for everyone though – you need to be willing and able to challenge yourself, to go beyond the obvious, to imagine and follow your own path instead of just going with the flow. If you want to take the reins into your own hands, we are here to help you.
49) Driving: I think I’m good, but there are times I could do better.
50) Car or one you want: I love my car! But a Ferrari wouldn’t be bad either.
51) Room: small
52) Mmh: huh? Je Sais Pas.
53) School: Some College. I might go back – different institution though.
54) Bed: Double On Stilts
55) Relationship with your parent(s): Not good, but not bad.

Do You…

56) Believe in yourself: Only on Tuesdays
57) Believe in love at first sight? Only on Tuesdays
58) Consider yourself a good listener: Only on Tuesdays
60) Get Along with your parents: No
61) Save your e-mail/chat conversations: used to/sometimes
62) Pray: rarement
63) Believe in reincarnation: I’d be lying if I said I didn’t think it’s possible
64) Like to make fun of people: No
65) Like to talk on the phone: No
66) Like to eat: Sometimes
67) Like to drive: Love to Drive
68) Get motion sickness: Not usually
69) Eat the stems of broccoli: when available
70) Eat Chicken fingers with a fork: nah
71) Dream in color: I Don’t usually dream, but when I do, Yes, it’s in colour.
72) Type with your fingers on home row: no
73) Sleep with a stuffed animal: no

What Is…?

74) Right next to you: my shadow
75) On the walls of your room: idk, but if you find out, please tell me.
76) On your mouse pad: How old is this thing?
77) Your dream car: Ferrari
78) Your dream date: Mar 3, 2050
79) Your dream honeymoon spot: Alps, Switzerland
80) Your dream spouse: Sexy, Smart, fun, understanding, patient, loves me for me,
81) Your bedtime: Past what it is now. I usu aim for midnight
82) Under your bed: ME!!! (and my Man-Cave)
83) The single most important question: 42. JK. The SMIQ is: WHY
84) Your bad time of the day: AM
85) Your worst fear(s): Gun Violence
86) The weather be like: Oooh-Aaah Oooh-Aaah OOOooo. +6 to -3
87) The time: LAAAATE (4:52 AM – I work @ 10…)
88) The date: Friday, Oct 21, 2016
89) The best trick you ever played on someone: Wasn’t a trick, but one time I turned the car around for my own efficiency – we were at a convenience store, and some friends went in to buy stuff. I turned the car around for a faster get-away. They were mistaken when they came back out, and hopped in the car next to me. It was funny.
90) The weirdest food or drink that you like: Icing on Broccoli. Only had it once though. Or Popcorn in Cheese Sauce. (Not that wierd, really)
91) Theme Song: Changes on the Daily. Currently it’s My Life be like (ooh-aah)
92) The hardest thing about growing up: Never finding stability
93) Your funniest experience: see # 90
94) Your scariest moment: The guys moved the car on me in Edmonton. I was afraid they left w/out me…
95) The silliest thing you’ve ever said: Ever?! IDRK. Maybe today when Charles was talking about filling the sugar container, and he said “pour it” and I broke out into song – “Pour some sugar on meeee!” as I take the empty container and pretend to pour it on me!
96) The funniest or most desperate thing you’ve done to get the attention of the opposite sex: When I was in grade 9 I licked the bottom of a girls boot cuz I wanted to date her… that was wierd..
97) The scariest thing that’s ever happened while with your friend(s): The guys moved the car on me…
99) The best feeling in the world: knowing I’m loved.
100) 5 people you tag: They will do it if they want to. Tag You’re it!


TYVM for Reading ALLL of this. ESP the Personailty Test Results.. They were long.

Post# 65 – Windows GodMode and other Handy Features

June 6, 2014
Godmode is a name coined by a blogger for the Windows hack that puts many settings in a handy custom folder. This feature is very handy for the computer tweaker, or the busy worker that can’t remember all the clicks to a certain destination. This folder is also handy at times in trying to diagnose certain setting related issues such as a printing window appears too large, and the user wants to shrink it by default so it will all fit on the screen. 
With all of the following shortcuts, the name can be anything you want it to be.
ie vhongo.{string} for any of them. I chose a meaningful name for each one below, to the best of my knowledge. I may be wrong with several of them, but they should be meaningful enough to describe what each one does. 
Here’s the list of 17 Text strings:


And, as a reminder, to create the Godmode folder itself, use this string:

These work for sure in Windows 7, Likely Vista, Maybe 8, I’ve not tested them on XP or sooner.

|Post #64 – My blab on Model Trains – In response to someone else’s “I never understand collecting Model Trains”

April 8, 2014

Model trains aren’t just about the trains. Its about so much more. 

You see, model trains as a whole is considered the World’s Greatest Hobby. WHY??? you ask, because short of just throwing down track and watching a train slither along (c’mon, THAT’S for chilldren), Model trains are the most versatile hobby. What this means is there are so many sides to it that you could assemble teams in different areas to work on one project. 

The sides are:

Woodworking and Construction “WHAT??? Theyre just trains, what does this have to do with anything?” Most table top units are of an ambiguous size or a non-conventional standard perimeter. This results in a need for custom tables to be made. I mean the average size of a good working layout is 4 feet by 8 feet (typically HO) but can be as small as 2 feet by 2 foot. (I dare you, go ahead and measure your kitchen table. I doubt its 4′ x 8′) Also many people opt for movable tables, and so they may need collapsible legs to get through doors. Id like to see your table do that.

Electrical — ok wait, what? doesn’t it just run on batteries, or something? While some train sets are battery operated, a real model train has one of two types of power, DC or DCC. Ill spare you the details for now, but just know that both are basically plugged into a wall socket (standard power). “Ok, so you plug it in, big WOOP!” Well actually, while lower end units have a plug and play idea to them, a real model wouldn’t use this type because of its lack of subtlety. The idea for the model is to mimic the real thing, and look like it too. Instead, a real model would use small electrical contacts that you can’t see to power the track. Also, because of the way power is and whatnot, a single live connection is often not enough to sustain a locomotive for the entire journey. The hobbyist would need to wire the track from several locations to get optimal performance. 

Landscaping and Scenery “WTF?!” Yep, its true. There is landscaping to your model. You not only have to recreate nature – Mountains, Trees, Rivers, Valleys etc… You also have to erect cities, build infrastructure, and make it all work in harmony. There are also many environmental factors to consider for each layout – what era, am I doing urban or country areas, what time of year? etc..
While many layouts are planned completely before construction, some are made on a wim. Also while many layouts are of fictitious / imagined scenes, there are tonnes you can find that recreate actual places and events, some are even recreated from old photographs.

“Yeah ok, so what. There’s a lot going going on, but WHYYYY?????”
Well, if it isn’t any of the above mentioned aspects, or the many others I’m sure I’ve forgotten, some people find it relaxing. One guy did it to lower his blood pressure. Some people do it because at the end of the day, they have something to show for it. Other people see it as art – a means of expressing oneself. And come on, face it, a well done layout, whether you like trains or not, does look pretty cool.

PS: Who says you can’t make adventures with trains? You could totally have the train roll past an old Western Country scene where the outlaws are riding into position to rob the train. 
Or you could have the train roll past a lake where people are swimming on a hot summer’s day.
I’ve seen layouts pull off search and rescue scenes, or combat forest fires. Ive even scene little scenes where Harry Potter is fighting in a Wizard’s Duel. Like I said, it isn’t just about the trains, it also about the scenery they are in, and so much more.

As for keeping it in the box, it depends. I’ve seen special release cars (the thing the train pulls) where they have special artwork on them, and where there are only X amount in the world. This may justify keeping it in the box. or maybe they do want to keep it pristine to sell later. Why do people keep comic books in the original plastic? You can’t read a comic if its bound… People have their own reasons, you’d have to ask them.

Rubix Cube

April 3, 2014

Rubix Cube

Think outside the cube — (I think originally

Rubix Cube

April 3, 2014

Rubix Cube

Parts of Cube –

Rubik’s Cubes

April 3, 2014

Rubik's Cubes

Cube getting zapped – Source Unknown (Google- suspected removed)

Problems with Commercialism in a “civilized” society

February 28, 2014

“Thank you so much for your series of Wal-Mart worker stories! I am kept sane by them, knowing other associates have the same problems and that people on the outside sympathize with what we go through. I have worked at Wal-Mart for five years, two years as an associate, and the last three as a department manager over hardware and sporting goods, respectively.

If I were to write down every unethical/illegal thing I have personally witnessed in the last 5 years, I would have to write a book. For the sake of simplicity, I will instead answer the most common questions asked by frustrated customers who shop at Wal-Mart, because truly, every evil thing you need to know about our day-to-day existence can be summed up by answering these questions.

How come every time I come into Wal-Mart, there’s never anyone around to help me?

Excellent question! The reason there’s nobody to help you is because our salaried management team decided to cut hours and staff. Why did they decide to cut hours and staff if you are here now and needing help, you ask? Well, even though the company is worth billions, home office gives store managers a set amount of hours and payroll dollars that they can schedule people/pay people in each area of the store, and it is based on what the sales were in that department on that day the previous fiscal year. So even though last year was a Friday, it was snowing out, and no one was shopping, this year, on a Saturday, when its sunny out and everyone is shopping, you won’t have anyone around to help you because LAST YEAR we didn’t make enough money! Add to that the fact that store manager’s and assistant manager’s incentive bonuses (to the tune of $80K for store managers and $20K for assistant managers, once yearly) are partially determined by how much they can bring scheduled hours/payroll DOWN from the year before (of course, while still keeping sales up,) and you begin to see how this pattern of never having any help around comes to be. Us hourlies get quarterly bonuses, of course, but they’re usually less than $300, and they don’t even make up for all of the hours that they cut from our paychecks to earn said bonus. 

Long story short, Wal-Mart won’t hire more people to help you, the customer, until you part with your sweet, sweet dollars so that our sales can go up, and then maaaaaaybe they’ll hire another person to cut some fabric for you. Salaried managers want their bonuses, you see, and if it means that you don’t get help when you come into the store, why, they really don’t care! Plus, if you have to wander around for awhile before you find someone to help you, you might end up picking up a few more things than you’d planned. See how that works?

How come nobody ever knows where anything is whenever I shop here?

Another excellent question! Well, as you know, we live by a culture of attrition here at Wal-Mart! As I mentioned before, the assistant managers and store managers are given incentive in the form of $80K and $20K bonuses to cut payroll and scheduled hours. Given that knowledge, you would be correct to conclude that you aren’t going to find a lot of people in any Wal-Mart who have worked there long enough to actually learn where everything is. What happens to people who stay there long enough to actually tell you (correctly) where the toilet plungers are, you ask? Well, if they don’t get into the store manager’s good graces and become a manager themselves (much faster to accomplish, if you have a penis), my bosses make up a BS excuse to fire them just before they hit $12 an hour! Isn’t that great? “You took a 17 minute break instead of a 15 minute break, and that’s time theft” and “lack of productivity” (aka, you couldn’t help customers/answer phone calls in 5 departments at a time AND back up cashier AND clean up YOUR entire area all at once) are the most common excuses I’ve seen, though occasionally they’ll just fire you for saying a swear word, without any previous coaching or provocations. You would also be correct to conclude that the one associate you do find to help you is likely a part-time worker (so no more than 32 hours a week, tops), who, again, because of cutting hours/payroll, likely spends half of his or her shift on a cash register (or unloading a truck) instead of in his or her department, because salaried management couldn’t be bothered to schedule more cashiers/truck unloaders (fewer workers=less payroll=more bonus money, you see?) 

As department managers, we’re also required by home office to change the layout of our areas and what products are stocked there about once every six months. When you throw in all of the seasonal merchandise we have to account for (Easter stuff, summer stuff, Thanksgiving, etc.) its easy to see why not even the managers know where anything is all the time. My first department alone had about 6,000 items in it, and I dare anyone to find me a soul on Earth who can catalog in their brain where 6,000 individual items are at any given time, especially after you factor in that their spot on the shelf changes about once every 3-6 months. This also serves the purpose of getting YOU to part with your dollars by making you wander about 5 aisles over and pick up 4 other things you didn’t need while you look for the thing you came in to buy in the first place. 

Isn’t Wal-Mart just swell?

How come everybody who works at Walmart is so grouchy and surly? I used to work retail/currently work retail and I am/was always sunshine and rainbows no matter how shitty other people are/were to me!

I only added that second line into this FAQ so that I could tell people who tell me bullshit like this on a weekly basis that you are terrible, terrible people, I hate you, and I hope you get eaten by a dragon. That is all.

I can only speak for myself, but from reading other installments of Wal-Mart worker stories, I have concluded that my experience is pretty common for the company, so other associates can probably relate to what I will say. On any given day, I am given, on average about 3-4 “notes” that I must complete before the end of my shift. This includes things like taking down/moving displays, working 100 (ish) boxes of merchandise to the floor, changing the layout and replacing all of the labels of an entire aisle in my department. Sometimes these things don’t take long to do at all, but if too much merchandise is full on the shelf, or there’s a lot of extra discontinued stuff after you put up a new layout on an aisle, it can take an entire shift or longer to complete. This would be fine, if not for the fact that you are also expected to help customers, back up cashier (even department managers/zone managers), and clean up and put away stuff in other departments where salaried management has cut hours (they love their bonus more than your satisfaction as a customer, remember.) 

You might be asking yourself how a single person can do all of those things in an 8, or sometimes 4 hour shift. The truth is, they can’t, and salaried management knows that no person could, but nevertheless it is expected that every associate do the impossible and complete 3 days worth of work in a single shift. If they can’t do this for whatever reason, they are treated with contempt, rage or ridicule by salaried management, who mockingly insist that “its not that hard” to get that much work done…while they sit in the office all day and chit-chat amongst themselves and their few chosen toadies. I’ve seen associates cry after being yelled at by salaried manager’s for not getting their area cleaned up, even though those same managers were the ones who told them to leave their areas to get on a cash register because “we’re a family here and we help each other out.” This serves a double purpose. If an associate doesn’t quit from this cruel treatment within 2-3 years, the salaried managers can fall back on “productivity” (even though no human can possibly do that much work) if they need a convenient excuse to get rid of someone who’s making “too much” money, or even just someone they don’t like for personal reasons. Either way, payroll goes down which means the managers have a better chance at…you guessed it, the bonus! The culture basically offers monetary incentive for assistant and store managers to treat their workers like shit and encourages high turnover in the process. 

So when you, Mr. or Ms. customer, approach me with a question, I certainly don’t mean to be surly. It’s not that I don’t want to help you, I’m sure you’re a nice person who didn’t mean to bother me, but if given a choice between pissing off you, a stranger I don’t know, or my boss, who will call me incompetent, lazy, etc. if I don’t get my notes done, I choose to piss you off with my dismissive, rushed service instead of my boss, because ultimately my boss signs my paycheck and you’re a face I will forget in a few hours. Honestly, if someone is making $8.20 an hour, they’re rightly only going to give you $8.20 an (overworked) hour’s worth of service. I’m sorry it has to be that way, but I assume if you’re shopping here you know on some level what you’re getting into.

If you are a department manager, you have the additional responsibility of having to work five different reports every week, all of which entail a process of running from the back room to the sales floor (in a store the size of a football field) counting close to 50+ items on a single report. Even then, you can count until your eyes fall out of your skull, but it is ultimately the comanagers and store manager who have the power to approve or deny the counts I enter into the computer. Which leads me to my very last FAQ angry customer question about Wal-Mart…

How come I can never find what I’m shopping for at Wal-Mart? How come there’s never any product on the shelves? 

Because even though you and I can both clearly see that there’s no sex jelly on the shelf, my scanner thinks that I actually have 3, hidden away, somewhere…and management, not wanting to eat into their precious, precious bonus, will not let me change the number in the system from 3 sex jellies to 0 sex jellies. 3 containers of sex jelly at $4 a pop means they lose $12 of sex jelly profit, and every dollar lost eats into their bonus, which is just unacceptable in their world. Those containers of sex jellies could have been stolen, sent to the wrong store…but if the scanner says they’re in the store then OMG IT MUST BE THERE SOMEWHERE THE DEPT MANAGER KNOWS NOTHING! So, no sex jelly for you. But definitely $80K in the pocket of the store manager come December.

Before I sign off, I just want to add that if you really can’t afford to shop anywhere but Wal-Mart, buy as much stuff on clearance as possible when you do have to shop there. All of our clearance items are sold at a loss to the store. If you buy more clearance items, we lose profit. And it helps the associates suffer less at work, because sorting clearance items is a pain in the ass. That is all!”
– Author unknown (obtained from )


This is no different than working for Pizza Hut, Cineplex, Tim Horton’s, Superstore, or any other ‘big box’ franchise store.

In my many years of customer service to stores like these I have seen this happen. After working for a company for three years and rising to the top of their seniority, I was still making only fifty-cents more than new hired staff. All benefits were withheld for “full time staff” but in order to be considered full time, workers were required to work 40 hours a week for 3 months. This seemed fair, except that everybody was scheduled for a maximum of 37.5 hours a week, no exceptions. 

One of the aforementioned places of work has forcibly made its employees sign a contract stating that the company is allowed to schedule its employees for a maximum of 10 hours a day, or 160 hours over 4 weeks, and not be required to pay overtime.

aside from that, they also actively cutting hours, where it’s employees can barely afford to pay their bills as well as rent and survive. What kind of a world are we living in where people who make more in a month than the average person does in a year feel they have the right to push the little guy around with no remorse for how it affects him.  And our bosses often wonder why we are stressed, over tired, beaten to the point of breaking, and inneffective at work. Maybe if employees were treated fairly and with more respect, the results would be different ten-fold.  

Why do we live in a world where “everybody is replaceable”, when clearly re-traing new people to do the same job is more harmful than constructive.

It’s like starting new everytime. A company can’t flourish if it’s floundering, doing the same thing everytime. Take the knowledge and backing of an experienced employee, and use that knowledge to move forward. Retraining someone new to do the old job is like a dog chasing it’s tail. It’s going nowhere, and it’ll get you no where.  

anyway, chrome is being slow, and cramping my style… 

Post #62 – not a bad guy

September 16, 2013

My Friend wrote this. Some edits were made to the original.

Giving away a (insert current year here – 1991) year old male.

Answers to the name Viktor.

Friendship desired. Romantic applicants must be female, despite “what sort of vibe” you’re receiving.

So listen up people, this dude is rad.  Wanna talk about movies?  Boom.  Product comes with movie theatre experience and knowledge of many many movies.  You like musicals?  Your friends or ex boyfriends avoid musicals like the plague?  YOU ARE IN LUCK!  Viktor comes with built in musical appreciation!  So at the very least you can take him to a movie.  Like really, this is basic stuff.  Come on, just do it.

OTHER REALLY COOL THINGS!  Product comes with above average appreciation for women, and I don’t mean a “dang girl, you look so fine” sort of creepy or even purely aesthetic appreciation, I mean a desire to have conversations with women.  Does that earn him any points!  I sure hope it does!  He is also an extrovert, so he is likely to start conversation!  Take it from this introvert, that’s a fantastic quality for your future friend to have.  It means that you don’t have to have a Mexican stand off before having a conversation!  Also extroverts are likely to text first!  Come on, guys.  BUT DON’T LET THAT EXTROVERSION PAINT THE WRONG PICTURE.  This dude is mad intelligent!  Insightful, deep thinking, theory building, critical, even poetic once in a while!  I have a good feeling about collaborative projects if you consider this guy as your next platonic or romantic partner!  His friendliness comes in a strong variety, so be prepared!  He is not, I repeat, NOT a creep.
What else…  OH YES.  He’s a Whovian.  Do I have your attention yet?  I thought I had your attention at the start, for shame!  He’s also a hella good listener and HOLY SHIT HE’S WILLING TO TRY NEW THINGS?!?  WHERE DOES THIS GUY COME FROM?

Other stuff of interest:
He really likes trains
One of his favourite movies is Meet the Robinson’s
He’s a Pisces
Born in the year of the dog
He’s not a Prairie boy, his heart belongs to the wilds of British Columbia.  I don’t know what that can tell you, but his current location is in Saskatchewan.  Use your abstract thinking to get a feel with what it means.
Studying computer engineering
Is a hugger
Has a beard, if that’s a thing people look for.
Likes the concept of modesty
Gory movies aren’t his style (but I bet you could talk him into Repo! The Genetic Opera; this seller owns a copy and he’s interested)

Buyer beware:  Viktor is prone to laziness and apathy at times.  Occasional occurrence of misanthropy.  While does seem to connect far better with females, is prone to blanket statements about the female gender when talking into the spewing white hole of the internet to absolutely nobody in particular  “Girls suck.  Stupid girls.”  “Bitches are bitches, I hate bitches” but this is not at all common behavior and is, as a rule, quite respectful in person and specific conversation.

Seller is not an ex girlfriend, so will not eat your face.

Interested in this offer?  is his personal blog, vhongo is his tumblr, lived everywhere, will travel, so I can personally introduce you to this cool guy. Open to offers.